The People-Pleaser’s Paradox
If you’re a people-pleaser, read on because this hack could very well change your life.
Don’t think you’re a perfectionist? Think again…
Here are some of the most common myths that prevent us from getting a handle on our perfectionism, and steps we can take to overcome them.
The Science Doesn’t Lie (but your inner-critic might…)
Think that ruthlessly critical drill-sergeant in your head is driving you forward? Think again.
Holiday Boundaries for Beginners
Boundaries are essential for healthy and happy relationships. But many of us have never learned how to draw them. Here are some tips for getting started this holiday season.
Taking the Long View
Our anxious brains are constantly telling us that we just can’t spare the time to invest in our future productivity, performance, or well-being. Here’s why it’s worth taking the long view.
Wherever You Go, There You Are
People sometimes ask why I feel so strongly that reining in perfectionism is the single most important step many people can take to meaningfully enhance their well-being. This is why.
Everyday Gratitude (With a Twist)
There is nothing seasonal about the benefits of gratitude. These practices have helped me ensure I don’t take life’s gifts for granted during the non-November months of the year.
Big-Picture Perfection
Perfection is a myth. But if we can bring ourselves to stop stubbornly pursuing this mirage, we can achieve big-picture perfection.
Find Your Way Home
While it’s easy to lose ourselves amidst the pressures of daily life, our values provide a compass that we can always use to find our way back home.
Permission Slip
Our anxious brains often try to stymie our self-care efforts. While we can’t necessarily stop those waves of anxiety from coming, this strategy will help you ride them steadily to shore.
Confession About My Crickets
There’s a reason I haven’t posted in a little while, and it’s not one I’m proud of. This is me holding myself accountable.
Guiding Principles
My husband and I made what could have easily been a highly mundane and morose period magical by heeding three guiding principles.
What We Can Learn From Cucumbers and Ice Cubes
Our perfectionist brains often tell us to give up when we don’t see immediate progress. Here’s why we should stick it out.
A Softer Approach
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve caught myself trying to perfect my “perfectionism recovery.” Here’s how you can try a softer approach.
You Can’t F*ck Up, You Can Only Find Out
While perfectionists often believe their fear of failure drives them forward, the truth is it’s actually holding them back. Here’s how you can break that pattern.
From Fear to Freedom
We do NOT need to extinguish our fear entirely in order to enjoy the fruits of freedom. We just need to be willing to accept the fear long enough to take even the tiniest step to shift the balance.
Stepping Away from the Story
Whether or not we choose to recognize it, the stories we tell ourselves end up shaping our reality. Here’s how you can reclaim your narrative.
HOW IN THE WORLD Can I Maintain My Well-Being When…?!
Read on for strategies for conserving energy and maximizing well-being even during major crunch periods.
More of This, Please
Over the years, I’ve learned that it is honoring my values — nothing more and nothing less — that makes me feel whole.
Wanna Skip the Line?
Sometimes, investing a relatively small amount of time and effort NOW pays off dividends down the line by increasing both the speed and ease with which you can achieve your desired outcome.